February is the month of love - self love. Love for our culture, people and most important ourselves. Neither our blackness or focus on self -Love should be limited to a month but rather celebrating all year, 365
Self care is anything you do to recharge and take care of yourself. The way you make yourself feel good. What keeps you going when you run out of steam. The thing you do when shit gets rough. That thing that is unique and special to you.
Self care doesn’t have to be expensive, unlike what social media often glamorizes. Some of the common things people do for self care are massages or vacations. I’m sure most of you have that part down if you are able. However, today I’m talking about more subtle forms of self love, also put, less expensive forms of self-love that achieve the same goal. For example, a scalp massage with Erykah Badu playing in the background, a bubble bath and candles lit and a glass of champagne, a night out with your girls catching up and sharing your thoughts on the last episode of insecure and talking to your girls about your new promotion and boyfriend.
“Do you know what I mean?”
I am talking about a 3 mile run on your favorite trail or a spin class. I’m talking about taking a shower. Wearing clean clothes. There is levels to this and they are all perfect. I’m talking about doing something for you consistently because you deserve it. Every minute. You are worthy.
“Do you hear me?”
Self care isn’t selfish, it’s necessary. We are so busy taking care of everyone else and forget to take care of ourselves.
“I say NO MORE, for once put YOU first!”
Make a date with yourself and put it on your calendar. Plan for it and commit to it. If you keep running on an empty tank, you will break down. Stop and reflect on all you have accomplished. You are amazing and beautiful.
“Did I tell you, you are smart too?
You are a Queen and I love you, please take care of yourself sis. Starting now we are committed to self care 365 and brown girl magic, 365!